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February 2017

Structures of Positivity

By | Positive Psychology

Photo credit: David Cordova

In times of change, life may feel more like chaos than peace, more like falling away and breaking down than building up, and by adding some positive structure to our daily routine we can uplift ourselves. This can help to lead a pathway out of the chaos and toward building the life you want or the world you want to live in, supported by a thriving foundation on which to stand.

When the old breaks down we don’t have to hold onto it and go down with it. We can take a moment and step back and ask ourselves, “how can I use this situation as an opportunity to fall forward instead?” If I let what is not working and not serving me fall away and instead focus on introducing a nurturing daily practice of positivity, it is possible to build a foundation on the structures of something more sustainable.

So what do I mean by a daily structure of positivity? It doesn’t have to be a long time each day, but you want it to be something you can commit to every day, even if only for 5 or 10 minutes at first. Then each week, add something else to it while you build it out, brick by brick. The only requirements are that you do your best to stick to the practice daily, and that what you choose be heart centered. This means your practice makes you feel things like happy, joyful, expansive, creative, light, calm, centered, grounded and balanced. If you were describing your practice to someone close to you, you would find yourself saying things like, “it fills me up,” or “it recharges and rejuvenates me,” or “it calms and centers me.”

It can be really fun to spend some time just thinking about what you would put into your practice. Take some time reflecting on how you want to feel from it. Here are some examples to help get your ideas flowing:

  • Meditating
  • Breath work
  • Using your creativity
  • Writing
  • Playing music
  • Dancing
  • Running
  • Yoga
  • Cooking for fun
  • Reading poetry
  • Singing
  • Gratitude practice
  • Mindfulness practice
  • Setting intentions
  • Using your imagination
  • Laughing

Observe how you feel before and after your practice and take notice so you can make adjustments. Ask yourself “do I feel positive emotions from this practice?” You may even want to set alarms on your phone to help you remember to do it. To pause in your day for even 10 minutes of meditation can do wonders. Even the busiest of people can stop for 10 minutes a day for a positivity practice!

What will be in your practice?

Big Hugs,
Robin Cordova

Circles of Influence

By | Positive Psychology

Photo credit: David Cordova

“I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples.” Mother Teresa

We can’t deny the turmoil we see and feel around us every day during these times of great change in our world.  I believe most of us desire to stay hopeful, find ways to impact change in a positive way, and lead a happy thriving life.

Today I wanted to write about circles of influence because many are feeling concern, worry and fear about what the future holds. If we happen to be witnessing areas we have little control over, this understandably makes us feel angry, vulnerable and scared.

Positive psychology teaches us to focus first on the things that we can control, and also that our wellbeing is crucial to all success. Our greatest circle of influence is always going to be within our own selves. I support the idea of connecting first to our own life force energy, balance, vitality and wellbeing, and then look for ways to be an agent of change in our immediate environment.

Don’t minimize the positive impact you can have on someone else with a smile, a warm hug, or a helping hand. I view this as our next considerable circle of influence. This might include family, community, workplace or special cause. What need shows up in front of you that you feel drawn to contribute to? Selecting something that you can directly impact will give you a sense of hopefulness and confidence instead of feeling powerless or fearful.

Look for an opportunity you can stand up for and feel passionate about. When you are contributing from “passion” it is not a sacrifice, but rather a joy. If you are dedicated to operating first from a place of personal wellbeing and self love you never loose sight of the most important circle of influence — yourself. From there you will operate from a strong foundation and you’ll be amazed at the influence you can make towards a better, more peaceful loving world all around you. Watch the magic as it ripples out to your next circle of influence.